tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86814496554205903542024-03-13T23:30:44.987-07:00Police Wives Unite BlogSisterhood, Friendship, SupportKellyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13240423230898075681noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681449655420590354.post-13222331359776746522009-08-29T23:00:00.000-07:002009-08-29T23:03:28.161-07:00Relaxation? I think notSo, after enjoying the last week, I realize that I have to prepare for the week ahead. See, my husband missed most of the preceding week because he had stacked his days off for this week since his brother was going to be in town for a week. As we were expecting company, I needed to get the house in order, which is no small task with two young children running around.<br /><br />I decide that since both of my husband's brothers will be here for the weekend, and both of our children are male, it would be a great opportunity for them to have some male bonding, i.e. a boys' weekend. I make reservations in a local hotel, and figure I will take this opportunity to catch up with myself, my reading, my friends, etc. Sounds good so far, doesn't it? Well, I have to tell you what a genius I am.<br /><br />When I booked the hotel room, I made sure I got a room with a whirlpool tub. Now, I am not much of a bath taker, I prefer showers, but at the time it just sounded so inviting. I check into the hotel, make sure the room looks pretty decent and head back out. I start off my weekend by going to a local bookstore to start my indulgence. After casually perusing the aisle, (truly a guilty pleasure, rather than a harrowing dart), I pick out two books to purchase. So far, so good.<br /><br />On my way back to the hotel, I decide I want to pick up dinner to take back to the room, rather than eating in a restaurant. Again, the theme is indulgence, so I decide on Indian food. Its not something I can have very often because there is no way in hell that my kids will even think about trying it. So I order a sampler plate, some curry, some rice, some vegetable. It smells delicious. I get back to the room and leisurely enjoy my meal and my book. The tv doesn't get turned on even once.<br /><br />I decide that this is a nice relaxing evening and what better way to cap it off then to take a nice long hot bath. So I start to draw the bath water and realize that the switch for the jets is on the light switch when you walk into the bathroom. No problem, I will just make sure to fill the water above the jets before I get in. So I take my time, slowly melting into the tub. I am in no longer than 5 minutes when I feel the Indian food kick in. Uh oh, now I need to get out and rather quickly. I start to stand up, and doesn't one of the jets start to spray water across the room. I quickly turn on the water to fill the tub higher, because I don't want to sit back down, I need to get out NOW! Then I realize as I look at the wall where the water has hit it with the force of a firehose, that it has made a direct hit on the toilet paper roll. I quickly reach for the switch to turn off the jets, but the damage is done. I will spare you all the details, but I will share with you what I have learned from this experience.<br /><br />There is a reason I don't bathe, I shower. When eating something that your system doesn't get very often, eat small amounts. And lastly, if the switch for the whirlpool jets is out of reach, don't turn it on.Sarge's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06343288059987691959noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681449655420590354.post-25988913986244227182009-08-23T20:21:00.001-07:002009-08-29T23:04:42.133-07:00MIA<div class="column body"><div class="text">So, I haven't posted a blog in over a week, as I had stated I would. Well, the reason being that my children have been sick. My three year old is a complete nightmare leading up to his actually coming down with whatever illness he is going to have. Usually for two to three days prior to showing any symptoms, I feel like the devil has invaded my child's body and I contemplate calling a priest for an exorcism. If I say black, he not only says white, he screams it repeatedly while destroying every toy in his way. When I finally wrestle him into his room for a nap, he proceeds to stay in his room removing everything from his drawers, bed, and closet and throwing it into the middle of the room. No matter what food I prepare for him, he refuses to eat is while whining phrases like, "I don't like dinner" or "I don't want peanut butter and jelly" (his favorite by the way). Then just when I am reaching for the phone number for the orphanage, he becomes a hacking, coughing, fever running mess. Of course then I feel horrible for ever thinking about just how much money I could get for him on the black market.<br /><br />However, the second phase of the week kicks in. He is sick, miserable, clingy, but doesn't want you too close. He is up every hour on the hour with some croupy cough, leaving him and me with little to no sleep. If his little brother gets anywhere too close to him, all hell breaks loose. The only thing he wants is "honey juice" (warm orange juice with honey in it for his cough, which works as good if not better than cough medicine). By the end of the day, I am exhausted and can only pray for sleep. However, there is a much crueler plan in store for me. My child will again be up, perhaps not with the same frequency, but instead has added in projectile vomiting. We go through the dance of me changing his sheets and bedding, getting him all tucked in, and just as I am about to (or just have) turned out the light, it starts all over again. Of course this is through no fault of his own, but it still takes its toll on all of us. And just as I think we are through the worst of it, his little brother takes over where big brother left off. I know, I should be grateful that they are getting these illnesses now and hopefully will avoid them once they start school. But to be honest, that is of little consolation.<br /><br />So you will have to forgive me for not keeping my commitment to the blog. Its not that I didn't long to sit and post my thoughts, it was that I didn't have the energy to push the 'on' button on my computer. </div></div>Sarge's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06343288059987691959noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681449655420590354.post-6971920222093941932009-08-10T20:44:00.000-07:002009-08-12T07:15:14.628-07:00A question thats asked...Ive been asked alot by non police wives : <br />
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Well, let me tell you; when Mr Deputy and I first got together nights were easy. We lived in a house not only with my 2 daughters and his son but His sister and her now husband, So i was never alone. { iam still technically never alone since the kids are here..lol} I had P and C to talk to during the night until i was tired and went to bed. It wasnt until after they moved out that things were rough on me.<br />
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Once i was in the house alone with just the kids the nights started getting harder on me. One because we use to live in the ghetto and i was scared of someone breaking in and killing/raping/torturing me and my children. It was a constant stream of fear for me. At the begining a never really had the fear of something happening to Mr Deputy; I had that "he wont get hurt he is invinsible" thing going on.<br />
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Last year on June 15th I got a fat reality check off that one. Mr Deputys Partner was killed and i realized JUST how close it came to being Mr Deputy. Since we had moved into a better neighborhood my fears had pretty much gone away until that night. After that I didnt sleep at night for 3 months. I pretty much begged Mr Deputy to find a way to stay home after he finally went back. When he couldnt call in anymore and had to return to work I did my best to put on my confident face and kiss him good bye and let him actually go out the door. Once he was gone though it was a whole other story.<br />
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The first few weeks i would actually put both Mr A and Miss O in bed with me. i needed that comfort of my children there with me. Although i never slept; after they would pass out i would get up and browse the internet until 3-4 in the morning when i knew it would be close to Mr Deputy coming home. I have to admit that Mr Deputy must have sensed my uneasyness because he would text me alot during the night. Just simple Hi, whatcha doing type texts... you know the kinds that when you read between the lines say: " I know your worried about me and I dont want you to worry and i am alright and I love you" So that eased things a little.<br />
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So I guess to answer peoples questions i would say that; I make it through the night by having the confidence in knowing that Mr Deputy does his best to stay safe while out there; He has proper training with his job. I have the confidence in knowing that he is out their protecting others all the while waiting to come home to his family. I have the confidence in knowing that i have support from close friends and Spouses of Law Enforcement sites. I pray to god each night that Mr Deputy and his shift stay safe. and I have Faith that when i lay down to go to sleep i wont be woken up because its "the night" that something terrible happens to Mr Deputy.<br />
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Although I knew that this meant a return to shift work, because I had not experienced it previously, it took a bit of adjusting.<br /><br />Then the offers began to roll in for openings. As he works for a state agency, this left the possibility of relocation on the table. What we were not expecting was the economic conditions that have hit our country and especially the state we live in so hard. We went from being excited about the prospect of moving our family to a new area, to realizing that we could not afford to make the move as a family. Then he was assigned to his new area. It was five hours away. I was devastated. He and I had not been away from each other for more than a few days since we had dated. Our children were very young, one still an infant. As a stay at home mom, I didn't realize just how much I had taken for granted his companionship and adult conversation. I didn't know if I had the strength. I couldn't share my disappointment and fear with him. He was about to embark on a journey of his own and without the comfort of family near him.<br /><br />I put on my best supportive face and threw him a going away party. The kids and I surprised him with photos for his desk and new apartment. We packed up our car and drove up with him to his new post. When we drove away, I wanted to sob, but I couldn't because our children were in the backseat and I didn't want to scare them. As it was, they were too young to understand what was going on. We made the long drive home. It wasn't until I walked into our bedroom and realized that all of his stuff was gone, that it fully hit me. I sobbed like a baby, for my children, for my husband and all that he would miss in our children's lives, and for myself. I was now a single mother whether I liked it or not.<br /><br />I know that this year was as hard on my husband as it was on myself and the children, but in very different ways. In the beginning, we both had to adjust to being lonely. Although we spoke everyday by phone and occasionally through a webcam, it still wasn't the same. He was surrounded by new people, in a new position, in a new city. He was the low man on the totem pole, and that in itself can be stressful. He missed his family, his home, and everything familiar. For our children and myself, there was a giant hole in our lives. Daddy wasn't there for us when we fell and scraped our knees, when we took our first steps, or when we needed a shoulder to cry on. I continually told myself that I shouldn't be upset and how fortunate we were that he was only five hours away. I couldn't and still can't imagine what military families go through when their loved ones go off to war and there is the uncertainty of their safe return. But no matter how many times you repeat those words, it does not fill the void in your heart.<br /><br />We made it through that year. It wasn't easy, but we all searched deep down inside and pulled it together. There were times that I wanted to throw in the towel. It was heart wrenching to explain to our then 2 year old that Daddy had to leave again after being home for 72 hours, to go back to work. He would stand in the doorway and watch as my husband drove away and then he would wail, "I want my daddy". When our youngest said his first words, I never expected them to be "Bye bye Daddy". On the days that our two year old was being two, I cursed my husband. Our child is a very stubborn child, and sometimes cannot be persuaded to do anything. Those are the times when I really needed a break, because we would have days like that with no one to run interference. My husband missed potty training and first steps, speech therapy and doctor visits, school activities and soccer games. I sometimes resented him for those things, he got to go back to his apartment and almost be single again. Other times, I lamented that he missed those things because it was time in his children's lives that he would never get back.<br /><br />Through all of the heartache, fear, uncertainty, and anxiety we all found our inner strength. I was able to run the house everyday, get the kids to school (almost on time), and find new adventures for the kids and I to go on. We visited libraries, museums, zoos, beaches, farmer's markets, and more. We took the dog hiking and went on coyote hunts (thankfully never finding one). We tracked mountain lions and watched seagulls. I used that year to find my inner voice and strength as a mom. My children learned that it is ok to miss someone. They discovered that that person will always be close in their heart. They also learned that their dad loves them so much, he was willing to sacrifice a year away to provide for them in the future. My husband also found a new strength. He has learned that it is very tough to be away from his family and that our time together should never be taken for granted.<br /><br />We all have challenges we must face. Even when we don't think we are up for it, we manage to pull from reserves we didn't know we had. Sometimes we stumble, sometimes we even fall, but if we just keep getting up, we may surprise ourselves with just how far we have come and just what we can handle. Challenges are really a way for us to show the world that we can do it and we are courageous enough to try.Sarge's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06343288059987691959noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681449655420590354.post-9762440438748113122009-08-07T12:00:00.000-07:002009-08-07T12:06:10.363-07:00A ScareHas it ever happened to one of you?<br /><br />Not a pregnancy scare, or an OMG I almost got in a car wreck scare. You get a call and you worry that it's The Call.<br /><br />I was just leaving the YWCA after a swim, and my cell rang with a local number I didn't recognize.<br /><br />"Hello?" I said.<br />"Hello, this is Lieutenant J." she said.<br /><br />My heart skipped a beat.<br /><br />"May I speak with Noah?"<br /><br />They had the wrong cell number in the system: mine instead of his. She needed to talk to him about an upcoming special assignment.<br /><br />But for a split second, I thought it was The Call.Erinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12321505516350090098noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681449655420590354.post-78975727691695214022009-08-05T08:20:00.001-07:002009-08-05T09:14:47.339-07:00Looking for fulltime blog contributorDo you have a passion for writing? 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policewivesunite@yahoo.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681449655420590354.post-7735914405577201902009-07-28T10:31:00.000-07:002009-07-28T10:31:48.974-07:00New and Exciting Things to comeIn the Coming weeks <a href="http://www.policewivesunite.ning.com/">Police Wives Unite</a> will be undergoing some changes and making improvements!!! We are looking forward to announcing our news This coming Monday August 3rd 2009, so stay tuned!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681449655420590354.post-807919024458614442009-07-20T13:53:00.000-07:002009-07-20T14:17:32.608-07:00When they're asked to do moreIn our tanking economy, it seems that across the board more is being expected of workers, and they're getting less in return. As police wives, though, we know all too well how often our officer spouses get the short end of the stick. They're always expected to do more than is expected. We know that the end of their shift isn't necessarily the end of their shift, and their days off aren't set in stone.<br /><br />This past week the leader of the local chapter of a prominent national gang was shot and killed, and his funeral is taking place on Saturday. So just as we started making plans for our days off together—the first in three weeks—Noah was told that he and his squad have to work this weekend. The consolation prize? They'll get Wednesday off instead. Wednesday. When I'm at work.<br /><br />For me, the time apart is worse than the worry. I have no control over what happens while Noah's working his shift, so I try not to think about it too much. But it's the disappointment of expecting those precious few hours together and having them taken away—usually last minute—that really hits me the hardest. I remember once, while I was pregnant, I was lying in bed trying to sleep, expecting Noah to be home at 1 am. I knew that once he got home I'd be able to rest, and the next day was his first off after a shift (and the only one we'd have off together). Just before he was supposed to get home, I got the call: He had to work overtime, and much of the next day—OUR day— would surely be spent sleeping. I fell apart. I needed him, and he couldn't be there with me.<br /><br />In the grand scheme of things, it's easy to say "It's just one Saturday." But it's OUR Saturday. It's our precious and somewhat rare day at home together with our son.<br /><br />As strange as it may seem, of course I feel for the friends and family of the man who was shot. But the fact that I have to give up a day with my husband, that I have to give up some of our precious time, so that he can keep order and safety at a funeral, an event that's supposed to be quiet and mournful...that's just too much.<br /><br />At the moment I'm trying to train for my first sprint triathlon, something I've decided to do <span style="font-style: italic;">for me</span>. To show myself that I can do things that I used to think I couldn't. Funny enough, being a police wife has taught me that I can handle a lot more than I ever would have thought. But with Noah's schedule of long hours and unpredictable free time, it's been really hard to find time to train. I can't swim when Ethan is with me. I can't bike, because I don't have a bike seat and can't really afford one. I can run, but with the inhibiting jogger stroller and only for short periods of time before Ethan gets fussy because it's too hot. I don't have a whole lot of family or friends close by who can pop over for an hour and watch the baby for me. Sometimes I feel like a single mom. (Although all props go to <span style="font-style: italic;">real </span>single moms. I don't know how they do it!)<br /><br />Added into this crazy mix, it was recently announced at work that we'd all have to take turns staying an hour later than many of us are used to, a complication that under normal circumstances wouldn't be that big of a deal.<br /><br />But when your husband is a cop, every hour lost is a big deal. And every day lost, well. That's even worse.Erinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12321505516350090098noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681449655420590354.post-44475675829191230392009-07-19T00:08:00.001-07:002009-07-19T00:18:20.197-07:00Rituals........These simple phrases bring such strong thoughts and vivid images into people's minds. You can see the image of a wife and kids waiting for a patrol car to drive up when you say the words 'An Officer's Family.' Perhaps you see a uniformed man sitting with his wife and children, protecting them from the world. Being an officer is central to all aspects of one's life. Images will reflect this fact. After all, a law enforcement officer is never off duty. <br />
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'The rotating shift' may bring to mind a picture of a family carrying on a weekend alone. It can bring to mind a picture of a police family carrying on holiday activities without their police parent. While the officer works a weekend or sleeps after a night shift, the family lives on, together, but apart. Again, the 'job' is central to the lifestyle, central to the image. <br />
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The idea of 'rituals' probably doesn't bring a similar image. Most people associate rituals with religious or anti-religious events. However, rituals are one of the most important aspects of a healthy life for a law enforcement family. <br />
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Rituals are the foundation for a sense of community regardless of whether that community is a congregation, a cult or a family. Webster's dictionary defines a ritual as a pattern of behavior that is repeated in a set manner. If you came from a typical family, you will remember many rituals--perhaps the evening meal where everyone took turns telling about their day, perhaps Christmas day unwrapping and playing with presents, perhaps something as simple as a nightly story reading and tuck into bed. <br />
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Police families often have their rituals interrupted by the demands of the job. Frequently, the officer is not available to participate in the family rituals. When a brick is missing in the foundation, the structure weakens. A weakened structure will more readily feel the damage from a storm. The police family needs to work hard at establishing rituals in order to fortify the normal ups and downs of a marriage. <br />
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For example, if Dad is an officer and is working a three-to-eleven, he can't be at dinner. The dinner must go on, to steal an old show biz cliche. After everyone tells their story at dinner, the conversation can slip into what to say to Dad when he phones for his evening call. The kids can be given a one or two minute segment of a nightly phone call to present their day to Daddy. This way Daddy becomes part of the dinner, part of the ritual. What's important is that the same pattern is repeated whenever Daddy is on three-to-elevens. <br />
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If Mom is an officer and can't be there some nights to tuck in, she can be a topic of discussion at bedtime. "What do you want me to tell Mommy about today? Let's write it down for her. Now give me an extra kiss for Mommy when she comes home." One corrections mom even tapes a nightly message for her kids when she wont be home. It doesn't replace Mommy, but it brings her into the ritual. With a small amount of thought, creativity and a little extra work, the absent partner can always be present in one form or another. The benefits are worth the extra effort. <br />
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On the job, a partner watches your back, takes care of you. At home, a partner has to do the same. Bring your partner into the rituals. Build the most important foundation of your home, a strong family life. <br />
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<em></em></strong></div><div style="text-align: left;"><strong><em>Answer: </em></strong></div><div style="text-align: left;"><strong><em>When you spouse is a police officer!</em></strong> </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: center;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">The topsy-turvy lifestyle of law enforcement officers can place unusual stresses on families and spouses. Police wives must often assume the roles of their absentee mate, rearrange agendas to fit offbeat duty schedules, or simply learn to function independently. Job commitments and pressures sometimes foster breakdowns in communication between spouses, often locking police wives out of the picture. Faced with these stressed, feelings of isolation and frustration often mount and set the stage for marital discord as police wives live the lifestyle of "married singles!" </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">Divorce rates among law enforcement personnel parallel those of other high-stress professions such as doctors and lawyers. Surveys of police officers continually reflect estimates of divorce rates as high as 75%! </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">"There's no question about it, this is a very difficult lifestyle", says police wife Irene Schreiber whose husband Paul is a detective in the Suffolk County Police Department. Mrs. Schreiber joined the Suffolk County Police Wives Association in 1979 and served as the group's president for three years, gaining insight into the problems that police wives face. </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">"There are a lot of stressed involved that families of non police officers are not exposed to. But, in general, shifts, overtime and holidays are amount the ones that bother wives the most", she has found. "In out house we refer to the 5-1 shift as the 5-whenever! And, I remember a friend whose husband had been working a lot of overtime. When asked how his wife Charlene was, he replied, 'Charlene who?' When my husband first went on the job, I had to learn quickly how to cope with his hours, or be alone!" </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">As the world around them functions "normally, " police families often find themselves unable to participate. Invitations must be declined, holidays are postponed, and family's divide when one member must work while the rest of the world plays. Child care, home and social obligations, and recreation may become solo activities for the police spouse, as she attends functions and makes household decisions while her mate sleeps off the effects of a midnight shift. Police wives learn to handle everything from childcare to auto repair…alone. </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">"When the kids were young I had to be both parents to them," says the wife of a recent retiree. "I even learned to play soccer and pitch a baseball." </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">"Special occasions are what really bug me," confides another police wife. "I hate sitting down to a Thanksgiving dinner or the kids' birthday parties without him. Sometimes I feel like I'm raising this family alone." </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">A third wife complains, "there are times when my kids don't get to see their father all week. He's home while they're in school and when they get home he's working a 4-12. By the time he's home again, they're sleeping. And so it goes, the next day and the next. They start to forget what their father looks like!" </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">Intimacy suffers, too. Warm embraces are replaced with a cold and empty bed when he's working through the night. Interludes traditionally reserved for moonlit eves, shift gears as shifts change and turn his circadian clock upside down. </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">"This week he's a 'morning man'," She complains, "but, there's just no privacy with the kids around and I really don't have time in the middle of the day. Then, when I'm ready, he's too tired or on his way to work! I know it's difficult for him, but I get lonely too." </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">The void can go beyond the physical, as well. Emotional distance is often a side effect of the stress he encounters on the job. While dealing with trauma, danger and violence on a daily basis, he must uphold his professional demeanor and stifle feelings of anxiety, anger and frustration, a technique that often trickles into his off-duty personality. Further, in an effort to protect his loved ones from graphic reality, he may shut down certain lines of communication, excluding his spouse from a large and important part of his life. </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">"After going through a difficult situation at work they may get very quiet and go off into a world of their own," Mrs. Schreiber says. "Or, they become super busy around the house to work off that nervous energy. I guess it's kind of therapy for them, but some wives don't realize that and start to feel left out." </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">On duty, the police officer, as guardian of the public, commands respect due his powerful position. However, that "hero" image may be hard to tone down when he returns home and is expected to take out the garbage, causing psychological adgita for his spouse. Additionally, overtime and extra-duty demands may monopolize the police officer's time and attention, giving his mate a sense of low priority or abandonment. </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">"They have to handle everyone else's major problems," mentions Mrs. Schreiber, "then when they come home ours seem so minor. It's hard for them to change from one world to another so quickly. I know they try, but some wives feel like the last one on the totem pole." </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">Additionally, with an escalating number of females joining the police ranks over the last several years, "some police wives were initially 'uneasy' about the possibility of infidelity on those long night shifts. However, fears of chivalrous behaviors possibly compromising their husbands safety or interfering with the execution of duties took priority over those concerns" recalls Mrs. Schreiber. She is quick to emphasize, also, that the outstanding performance and record of the Suffolk County Policewoman have allayed those anxieties. </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">Most police wives agree that though benefits are abundant, the stresses are profound. "There are proven coping strategies, however, that help alleviate the feelings of 'single parenthood' for police wives," Mrs. Schreiber says. "If we spend to little time working on our relationships, it takes it's toll," she cautions, "so it's important to keep at it." </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">Her Suggestions: </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"><strong>MAKE TIME; MAKE DATES TO BE TOGETHER.</strong> You did it before you were married, so just do it again. Reserve special times to be together. It could be exciting. And set aside a 'family day', even once a month, so that the kids can spend quality time with both parents. </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"><strong>KEEP BUSY WHEN HE'S NOT AVAILABLE.</strong> Clubs, school, hobbies, exercise, rap sessions, visits, anything that interests you, can turn empty hours into positive time. </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"><strong>TURN OFF THE BEDROOM PHONE AND TURN ON THE AIR CONDITIONER.</strong> White noise (the soft steady drone of an air conditioner for example) can serve to drown out daytime sounds while he sleeps, making you're job as keeper to the silence easier. Also, uninterrupted sleep makes him a happier mate, a benefit for you. </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"><strong>HAVE SATURDAY NIGHT ON WEDNESDAY.</strong> Invite friends for supper or early evening coffee and cake midweek so you'll have a chance to socialize together. </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"><strong>KEEP THE LINES OF COMMUNICATION OPEN BUT RESPECT HIS SOLITUDE</strong>. Remember that both may be therapy that helps to keep the marriage healthy. </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"><strong>CELEBRATE SPECIAL OCCASIONS ON ALTERNATE DATES.</strong> Make arrangements to coincide with his schedule. Friends and relatives are often quite cooperative and supportive. </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"><strong>JOIN A SUPPORT GROUP</strong>. Sharing concerns and ideas helps reduce feelings of isolation, increases coping skills, and can provide companionship at needed times. </div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;"></div><div style="text-align: left;">Article provided by <a href="http://www.heavybadge.com/">heavybadge.com</a></div>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681449655420590354.post-76489728969345384822009-07-18T23:58:00.000-07:002009-07-18T23:58:28.446-07:00Marital and Family Issues specific to Law Enforcement Personnel<div style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: blue; font-size: large;"><strong>He's Changed!</strong></span></div><br />
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" He's changed. Now how do I live with him?" So booms the too often heard cry of many police wives. He's always so negative. We don't talk much anymore. He's not the man that I've married".<br />
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So goes the battle of the police wife. The man she married, the man she fell in love with, seems to be different since he became a cop. It doesn't happen to all, and it doesn't happen too all at once. But it does happen to too many police families. <br />
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Research suggests that negativity and cynicism build over an officer's career. Some even suggests that a cynical attitude can be seen developing in the police academy! This cynicism effects an officers relationships, especially with non-officers (like his wife!). They tend to communicate less and use humor, (often black humor), as a defense to avoid dealing with problems. As they get more entrenched in the police subculture they become more isolated from the "outside" world. Unfortunately an officer's family lives in that outside world! <br />
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As a result of a cop changing, so does his wife. Wives of officers tend to feel more isolated. They perceive themselves as facing the world alone. They see themselves as not in control of their lives. The department's schedule controls their schedule. The departments needs take precedents over their own! <br />
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Often a police wife will tend to get more emotional to compensate for their husband's lack of emotion. They can exaggerate lesser problems in order to get help or attention that otherwise does not come their way. In essence, wives go the opposite extreme in an effort to maintain balance in their family. Unfortunately, when two people reach extremes, the balance is too delicate and can become easily upset. <br />
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The tendencies discussed above, however, are not pre-destined. We all have tendencies: whether promoted by work, upbringing, or genetics. We get to decide whether we give in to these tendencies or fight them. That's the good news. The bad news: It takes a lot of work to overcome a tendency rather than give into it. The picture is clear: Mental health is like physical health -- it takes work to become healthy and continued work to stay that way! <br />
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Below are five suggestions that can be used to overcome the tendencies of police life -- five marital exercises that can help establish and maintain a healthy relationship. These exercised are only a start. Add more as you work on you own relationship! Follow them as best you can. Hopefully you will reap the benefits. <br />
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1. One of the first areas that a wife can work on are her negative attitudes toward his job. A wife's stated satisfaction with her husband's career carries great weight in determining the extent to which his career affects the family's life. Focus on the advantages of being part of the police family. It is like being part of a community. A community that can be helpful, supportive, and protective. For every negative statement you make force yourself to make at least three positive statements. Actually take control of your language. Positive language about being a police family will yield positive results. <br />
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2. Make a commitment not to be a victim to the tendencies of police life. Sit down with your spouse and review the directions that many police marriages take. Make it a habit to review these areas monthly. Rate yourselves and rate each other on what direction the relationship is going. One of the best ways to overcome potential problems is to look for signs that it is developing and deal with it while it is manageable. Be aware! Avoid letting the tendencies that plague police relationships become realities. <br />
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3. One of the unfortunate parts of living in the 90's is that we have been brainwashed to compact as much activity into as little time as possible. Time gets further compacted when children come along. Many lives seem to be filled with clutter that chokes us from having any quality in our life. Police families are particularly prone to this "cluttering" because they try to compensate for shift scheduling, overtime, and the perception of many wives that they are "single-parenting". Keep your life as uncluttered as possible by avoiding unnecessary purchases, over dependence on credit, over booking your calendar or your children's calendars, and avoid pack ratting of material possessions. Take the time to sit with your spouse and methodically go through each part of your life and eliminate the things that are not necessary. The amount of clutter in your life is directly related to the amount of stress you feel. <br />
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4. The most important commodity in life is time. Time is needed to build a strong relationship. Time is needed to overcome problems. Time is needed to firmly establish changes. Money can be replaced. Possessions can be replaced. Jobs can be replaced. Once time is gone, it is gone forever! <br />
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It is important for police couples to make time for each other. Time alone. Time away. If a daily period of time can be taken, 15 minutes to a half-hour, it will make a tremendous difference in the relationship. Some couples find that time in bed right before falling asleep is the easiest to arrange. Just a cooling down, talking period. Others find it best to talk on the front porch immediately after a shift, or before a shift. Whenever this time is taken, it is best if the time is taken alone with your spouse and regularly scheduled. Make it a personal ritual! Time with family is wonderful, but couples need time together without children. In the same vein, regular nights or days out alone with your spouse is also necessary. Whether it is every other week, or once a month, a day or evening out is an important part of maintaining a relationship. Take turns organizing this day or night. Let the activity be a surprise to your spouse when it is your turn. But, don't let the weeks turn into months without some quality alone time together. <br />
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5. We are by nature a task oriented, goal directed, species. Through most of our existence, if we lose sight of goals, we become less satisfied. Marriage must also be goal directed. Sit down with your spouse and set the goals that you will follow for the next year. Write them down and date them. Don't use general language like "be happy". Use specifics like "help Johnny read at first grade level, " or "save $2000, " or "take a trip to Canada," or "spend a half hour alone together five days a week," etc. Once your goals are written, post them somewhere visible and review2 them together every week. Add new goals, if necessary. In a year, re-write the goals. Don't project more than one year at a time. <br />
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In may seem like a lot of work, but it is the most important work you will do. Remember, the career, family, and home are all built on your relationship. Don't ignore this foundation. <br />
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When you start an argument, he calls for back-up<br /><br />9. Refers to bedroom as "The Pokey"<br /><br />8. Secret desire to see you in a Kevlar nightie<br /><br />7. Calls farting his "silent alarm"<br /><br />6. The obvious nightstick reference.<br /><br />5. You never hear him say, " OH, Man.... not donuts again !!"<br /><br />4. Refers to his winkie as "the ol' breathalyzer!"<br /><br />3. Stops you in the middle of sex to ask you if you knew how fast you were going.<br /><br />2. Handcuffs don't turn him on anymore.<br /><br />1. YES, that IS a gun in his pocket !!!!!Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681449655420590354.post-1804306054746685902009-07-09T17:50:00.000-07:002009-07-09T17:57:28.232-07:00Police Dept. Voice MailHello, you have reached the ____________ Police Department Voice Mail.<br /><br />Pay close attention as we have to update the choices often as new and unusual circumstances arrive. Please select one of the following options:<br /><br />- To whine about us not doing anything to solve a problem you created for yourself, press 1.<br /><br />- To postulate whether someone has to die before we'll do something about a problem, press 2.<br /><br />- To report an officer for bad manners when in reality the officer is trying to keep your neighborhood safe, press 3.<br /><br />- If you would like us to raise your children, press 4.<br /><br />- If you would like us to take control of your life due to your alcoholic or chemical dependency, press 5.<br /><br />- If you would like us to instantly restore order to a situation that took years to deteriorate, press 6.<br /><br />- To provide a list of police officers you personally know so we will not take enforcement action against you, press 7.<br /><br />- To sue us, tell us you'll have our badge, that you pay our salary, or proclaim our career is over, press 8.<br /><br />- To hear this menu again, wrap aluminum foil around your head and turn around three times.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681449655420590354.post-37435509579857089202009-07-09T14:44:00.002-07:002009-07-09T14:46:39.522-07:00WHAT IS A COP'S WIFE?<span style="font-family: verdana;font-family:Arial;font-size:100%;" ><strong>WHAT IS A COP'S WIFE?</strong></span><span style="font-family: verdana;font-family:Arial;font-size:100%;" ><br /><br /> A cop's wife is a woman who is married to a man who is "married" to his job, his partner and his badge. A cop's wife can usually be found cooking breakfast at midnight, picking up his uniforms at the cleaners and spending nights alone.<br /><br /> A cop's wife must be a good listener, not questioning him. She must be understanding when he goes out for a beer with his buddies, doesn't feel like taking her to the movies, or has an exam to study for.<br /><br /> A cop's wife must live with shift work, lonely holidays, bad jokes, ulcers and alcohol, bulletproof vests and fixed incomes. She is used to words like rape, robbery, assault and child abuse. She is familiar with night school, stakeouts, overtime and being on her own.<br /><br /> Most women are not born or raised to be a cop's wife; it is something that they have chosen to do. Some can and others cannot. She will spend each day learning, listening to and loving a man that few people respect and most others often hate.<br /><br /> A cop's wife makes beds, breakfasts and love to a man who spends more time with junkies, hookers, informants, pimps and partners than he does with her. She attends dinners, meetings and sometimes funerals.<br /><br /> A cop's wife watches the man she loves grow old before his time, watches him become cold and unfeeling, but she will remain his friend, wife and lover. She will always be these things to him, but she also knows that he will always be first, A Cop.<br /><br /> When a cop's wife kisses him as he leaves for work, she will make a silent wish that he will return to her. And every time there is a knock at the door, she will pray that it is not the Chief of Police and her husband's partner coming to say kind things about her husband, how brave he was, how dedicated he was.<br /><br /> Being a cop's wife means lots of trust, love and worry, but when he says "I love you", it makes it all worthwhile.</span>Kellyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13240423230898075681noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681449655420590354.post-46661749251774591862009-07-09T08:22:00.000-07:002009-07-09T08:24:24.978-07:00Holding each other upA couple of days ago, I commented on <a href="http://married2thelaw.blogspot.com">Married to the Law</a>'s post about police giving each other breaks when being pulled over, and an anonymous commenter laid into me pretty good, accusing me of saying that I'm better than other people because I'm a cop's wife (which was not what I said at all).<br /><br />However, it got me and quite a few other LEO spouses to thinking. And here's the thing: We ARE different.<br /><br />There are plenty of careers out there with specific dangers: electricians, window washers, construction, farming. But the difference for us (and military spouses—which many of you also are) is intent. Our husbands go to work with the knowledge that they <span style="font-style: italic;">will</span> be antagonized, they <span style="font-style: italic;">will</span> be endangered, they <span style="font-style: italic;">will</span> be targeted, they <span style="font-style: italic;">will</span> be engaged by people who mean them harm. Confronting intentional danger is at the very heart of what they do.<br /><br />I'm a professional editor for a travel industry newspaper, but I used to be an editor at a regular paper. When one of our sergeants was shot and killed a few years ago, reporters who never paid attention to me suddenly became interested in how I thought and felt, and more importantly, how my husband (then a trainee) felt. It was the only time that I could recall the news media showing concern and not suspicion for our police department. (The sergeant's death followed closely on the heels of a highly publicized reversal of a life sentence of a man who had spent 20 years in prison, which he claimed was a wrongful conviction.)<br /><br />We have all felt misunderstood. We <span style="font-style: italic;">are</span> all misunderstood. The very few officers who make grievous errors and choose to use their authority inappropriately are a point of fixation for the media and the community, while our husbands serve every single day heroically, ethically, selflessly. And we make sacrifices so that they can.<br /><br />We ARE different. Let's celebrate our courage, our selflessness, and our dedication. We deserve it.Erinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12321505516350090098noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681449655420590354.post-51422856980868473122009-07-06T20:28:00.001-07:002009-07-06T20:28:46.389-07:00Exciting New Things to ComePolice Wives Unite will be opening shop soon! A Cafepress shop that is! We are working hard at designing shirts and more!!! Stay tuned for our grand opening!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681449655420590354.post-54529487542679726922009-07-05T05:15:00.000-07:002009-07-05T05:17:08.243-07:00Cops in Michigan protect — and serve doughnuts<span class="”fullpost">Cops in Michigan protect — and serve doughnuts</span><br /><br />Associated Press-Sat Jul 4, 1:28 pm ET<br /><br />CLARE, Mich. – "Cops & Doughnuts" is more than a punchline. It's now a bakery in Michigan — owned by nine full-time employees of the Clare Police Department.<br /><br />The newly renamed bakery opened Wednesday, offering doughnuts, cookies, muffins, brownies and bread. It also has mugs and T-shirts bearing the "Cops & Doughnuts, 100 Percent Cop-Owned" logo, and phrases including "You Have the Right to Remain Glazed" and "Handcuffs and Cream Puffs."<br /><br />Officer Al White says the officers were concerned when the Clare City Bakery's owners decided to throw in the towel. The 113-year-old bakery would have become the sixth empty storefront in Clare's three-block downtown.<br /><br />The officers were on hand for the grand reopening but have hired a manager and will employ local students as staff.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681449655420590354.post-75093352178529630202009-07-05T05:12:00.000-07:002009-07-05T05:14:54.456-07:00NYPD rookie makes arrest moments after graduation<span class="”fullpost">NYPD rookie makes arrest moments after graduation</span><br /><br />Associated Press-Fri Jul 3, 12:42 am ET<br /><br />NEW YORK – A New York Police Department rookie just couldn't wait to get started.<br />One of the NYPD's newest officers made his first arrest Thursday just minutes after graduating from the Police Academy in a ceremony at Madison Square Garden.<br /><br />Officer Dariel Firpo, 23, was leaving the midtown Manhattan ceremony when he saw a 79-year-old man being robbed of his wallet and thrown to the ground by a mugger, police said.<br /><br />The mugger tried to run away, but Firpo caught him without incident, they said.<br /><br />"Officer Firpo made us all proud," police Commissioner Raymond Kelly said. "He's off to a great start."<br /><br />The man Firpo arrested, Jeffrey Grant, was being charged with robbery. Grant, 47, has 48 previous arrests and was just released last week from Sing Sing Correctional Facility in Ossining, N.Y., after serving time for a robbery conviction, police said.<br /><br />Grant, of Manhattan, was in custody late Thursday and couldn't be contacted. The name of his attorney wasn't yet on record.<br /><br />The mugging victim was treated at a hospital for a broken wrist.<br /><br />Firpo's feat "may be the fastest police action upon graduation in department history," said chief police spokesman Paul Browne, who was at the graduation ceremony for the class of 250 new officers.<br /><br />Firpo, who graduated from Lehman College in January with a degree in political science, said he wants to focus on community affairs while working in the nation's biggest police department.<br />"I'm really trying to stick in the community," he said.Unknownnoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8681449655420590354.post-59283950251645761412009-07-02T14:19:00.000-07:002009-07-02T14:22:14.838-07:00Support the PWU blog....<span class="”fullpost">Add this Button to your blog or website and show your support for Police Wives Unite!!!!</span> Just copy and paste the code into a HTML/Java Gadget for blogs and anywhere on your myspace/website!!!!<br />
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The National Council on Fireworks Safety (NCFS) urges you to put safety first when celebrating this Fourth of July. Legal fireworks are safer than ever, in part because of stringent federal safety standards enacted by the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission in 1976. The incidence of fireworks-related injuries has dropped dramatically during the past 10 years, according to Ann Crampton, executive director of the NCFS. But she says it can be cut further by following a few simple guidelines.<br />
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"Only use legal fireworks," she says. "The key, of course, is being able to recognize what's legal and what's not. Legal fireworks conform to the standards. Illegal ones often don't."<br />
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The Consumer Product Safety Commission requires that legal fireworks show the name of the item, the name of the manufacturer or distributor and easy-to-read cautionary labeling and instructions for proper use. Currently, 32 states, plus the District of Columbia, allow the use of some or all types of consumer fireworks.<br />
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"Commonly used fireworks include cones, fountains, and sparklers," Ms. Crampton says. "Before setting off any fireworks, contact your local police or fire department to make sure fireworks are allowed in your area."<br />
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Illegal devices include M80s, M100s and silver salutes. They have been federally banned since 1966 because of the large amounts of illegal explosives they contain. "Don't confuse these items with legal, consumer fireworks. Illegal devices will usually be unlabeled, will not bear a caution statement and will not list the manufacturer's name," cautioned Ms. Crampton. "Illegal explosive devices are extremely dangerous and can cause serious injuries. If you find any illegal items, or know of anyone selling them, contact the police immediately."<br />
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If you choose to use consumer fireworks to celebrate this year's Fourth of July festivities, remember the following safety tips from the <br />
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•Use fireworks outdoors in a clear area away from buildings and vehicles.<br />
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•Sparklers, fountains and other items that many states allow for use by consumers are not appropriate when a large crowd is present. <br />
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•If attending a community display, leave your own fireworks at home -- there will be plenty of excitement provided by the display.<br />
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For more information on Fireworks safety, visit the <a href="http://www.fireworksafety.com/">National Council on Fireworks Safety web site.</a><br />
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